absolutelyBangkok archive · Bangkok Sirens
Originally published Sept. 15, 2008
The amazing Thai butch-femme. Nobody in Bangkok uses the L-word. Even though there’s a sturdily active lesbian scene. Toms are highly visible, reports says Julia Steinecke, who recently brought us the Bangkok — Fantasy Land for Gay Tourists.
Toms are highly visible and Dees (short for bisexual or straight ladies) can find them in any public place and approach them. Which they do enthusiastically, we’re about to learn. And guess what: Bangkok’s Toms and Dees, it seems, have some lusty ancestors.
Toms are even a better kind of man: Her Tom’s not as selfish as a man, says a Dee. Whatever she wants, her Tom’s just buying it for her. Want a Tom? Well, maybe the young Toms who tease up their hair and bind their breasts are going a little too far for your taste.
By Julia Steinecke, Toronto Star
Due to a copyright request by the Toronto-based freelance author we’re only able to mirror the story via Toronto Star.
To further deepen your knowledge about the issue, there’s www.bangkoklesbian.com and Lesbian Travel Bangkok.
Highly recommended reading: “
Toms and Dees: Transgender Identity and Female Same-Sex Relationships in Thailand” by Megan J. Sinnott:
From the absolutelyBangkok archive. Back to all stories